Do unto others as they would have you do unto them, not as you would have them do unto you.
Not everyone wants to be treated the same way. Treat people how they want to be treated, regardless of how we might personally want to be treated in similar situations.
Be empathetic and follow sensitive moral guidelines. This avoids misguided attempts at kindness.
Instead of insisting that a person shut up and they must follow what you like for them, you first get their cooperation and participation.